The other day I sat in a venue with a friend when they confessed that he hated the fact that he never really got much of a look from anyone when he walked into a place. Now my friend ain’t Brad Pitt (he couldn’t be because know that Brad’s outside my bedroom window stalking me, not joining me for a drink) but he definitely hasn’t been beaten with the ugly stick either. His confession led to the two of us watched the diversity of entrances coming through the front door. Some showed confidence, some were purely on show but many needed a good lesson of Modelling For Dummies 101. Now I am not suggesting we are all meant to drop our current occupation to become a model but there are some tips that could help you gain more attention and great a better first impression.Tip # 1: Smile. Put your hand up if you would rather in the company of a happy person rather than a sad person. Thank you, hands down. It’s no surprise. We prefer to be around people that are fun and happy rather than someone with more issues than a box of Kleenex. Smiling will make you more inviting and approachable.
Tip # 2: Eye Contact. Your eyes are a very useful tool. Wherever you look you command others to look. Remember the last time you were having coffee with a friend and they were checking out a hottie behind you. How did you know their attention was elsewhere? Because they were looking elsewhere. How do you get people to look at you? Look at them, rather than the floor, your mobile or anything else you can find to fiddle with.
Tip # 3: Posture. Apart from being healthier good posture portrays confidence, another desirable quality. Ever been told to stand up straight or stop slouching? Yes Mum! What do you do? Shoulders back, tummy in, bum in. Apart from looking like a constipated duck you get cramps after a minute. What I want you to do is pick up a magic hammer in one hand and a magic nail in the other. Now hammer the nail into your head. (yes I am crazy). It won’t hurt because it’s magic. Now pick up a magic string, tie one end to the nail and the other to the sky. Use that magic string to pull you up. This will engage the erector spinae muscles wrapped around your spine and help everything fall into alignment. Now you look stunning.
So your homework is to try these three things next time you make an entrance, and even keep it up all night. You will look more friendly, approachable, confident and happy. Sounds like good traits for a partner, doesn’t it?
Hey everyone - you really must try this! It works. One of the first things my kids learned from Adam's team during modelling class........and a few years later - they're still pulling that imaginary string! Give it a go -- you'll only look like an idiot for a second.
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